May 12

Reflections on Afghanistan

I’m now sitting in the ultra modern Dubai airport, a world away from where I was just 5 hours ago. Yesterday I spent some time sitting in the garden of the guest house reflecting on the last two weeks. The roses were in full bloom and the birds were singing. It was quiet and peaceful and the sun was welcome. This morning as we drove to the airport at 5:30 the city was just waking up. There were very few people on the streets…children being walked to school by their parents, phone card sellers taking their position in the traffic lanes and people going to work. It had the same quiet quality that all cities have early in the morning and I was enjoying the ride. Then we passed a woman in a burqa with her small child sitting next to her in a traffic circle with her hand extended, begging for a handout. I wondered if she was a war widow or just desperate and if anyone ever drops something in her hand. A few moments later we passed an outdoor garden shop with pots of petunias!! The contrast was jarring, but a testament to people’s will to survive and make a life for themselves and their families irregardless of the circumstances.
Afghan woman begging

Our Afghan partner and I talked about what it’s like for people who are trying to survive in war zones and poverty and why they have trouble thinking about things in a forward and open way to make changes that would better their lives. His response was that sometimes people who are living in these circumstances do not have the time to sit and think with “rested” minds to evaluate and question things.

When I was at Bagram, there were 3 things that I wrote in my journal so I wouldn’t forget them. We met with a reserve officer from Chicago who has plans to put an Afghan bazaar on the base so that soldiers can have a real feel of Afghan life even though they never leave the base. I hope he’s successful and I hope they will do the same at the base near our work so we can have a shop there. He had two signs on his wall that I wanted to remember. “Never forget why you are here” with a picture of the towers on 9/11 and “It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory.” Change is so difficult and yet it has to happen for people to survive. I saw evidences of change during my time in Kabul. Girls in stylish, yet modest clothes and ball caps over their scarves. They are small things, but powerful statements just the same.

Our partner told me, “I’m happy that I have this mind to not follow old customs that make no sense.” He used the analogy, “If you’ve had a business for 25 years and it’s not doing anything good for you then release yourself and look for something different.”

So the questions are “Why are we here?” and “Why should we care?” I have some reasons…

We repacked our school supplies on Saturday morning and took them to all the bus stations in Kabul to ship them. School SuppliesNone of the bus companies would take them because they said that if they were found with them, the drivers would be beheaded!! We were able to ultimately get them shipped with the Hoopoe Books.

Our partner was unable to fly back to his city for three days because flights were cancelled due to the fact that an insurgent missile had been lobbed at the airport and damaged the runway which had to be repaired. I hated that he couldn’t get back to his family, but we were able to accomplish some more things. On Tuesday morning he told me of the news that you will only hear on the local Afghan channel. Four school children were beheaded by the Taliban in Khost province as a warning to others not to go to school. It’s hard to believe that someone can be brainwashed so thoroughly that there is not a spark within them to stop them from doing that to a child. It is almost more than your mind can comprehend. Education will bring that change that they so desperately fear because it will mean that they can no longer control the people. I don’t know if I could send my child to school after that news, but there are stories of Afghan children facing down death to go to school.

While our partner was in Kabul this week the village elders/bosses came to the women in our project and told them that they would have to pay a commission to them for the income they are receiving in making the carpets. Really….for what??? The women in these villages do all the physical labor as it is….working in the fields, taking care of the children and the animals and of course, cooking for their families and not eating themselves if there isn’t enough food. Our partner has always told me that the women are treated like animals. He is a “little” upset about this and will talk to the bosses when he gets back. He will give them the choice whether they like having the clean water to drink, food and clothing in the winter and school supplies for the children or if they would like for us to work in another village. The women have said they would move to any other village with us.
Women's work

The third thing I remember from Bagram was the Special Forces Major talking about creating “White Space” for change to happen. I know he was talking about security, but I like the term “white space.” Light does that to the darkness…even the smallest candle flame illuminates the darkest place. Our partner is lighting those candles little by little and so is everyone else working in a place that would appear to have no hope. One of the women staying in our guest house has lived in Afghanistan for over 30 years. Her husband was one of the 10 that were killed last year, but she remains.

I know that since Osama was killed there is a debate going on in America whether we should stay in Afghanistan. There is one thing I am sure of if we don’t stay….what will happen to the women and the children. It is almost unthinkable.

I’m sure you remember the photo on the front of the magazine with the young Afghan bride’s nose and ears cut off. Our partner saw her in the hospital in his city. This city has the highest incidence in Afghanistan of young women setting themselves on fire (Khood Soozy) because they are being forced to marry men as much as 40 years older than they are. And, I as an american woman have so many choices available to me that sometimes my head spins.

I don’t know about you, but I’m rooting for the girls in the ball caps.
Afghan School Girls

May 11

French Food and the Bird Market

I should try and make everyone feel sorry for me, but the guest house we are staying at in Kabul has some of the best food I’ve EVER eaten. The Afghan woman who is the cook was trained to prepare western food for foreigners. Her apple crisp and banana bread are awesome!!! I guess I have good timing in leaving, however, because the orthopedic surgeons that are here from England fixed her knee today and she’s going to be out of commission for two weeks!! So anyway it wasn’t that I was desperate for some good food, but we went to the only French restaurant in Afghanistan for lunch….the food was good, but the best part was the real latte instead of Nescafe. It is in a private house behind locked gates with no sign and only the locals know it is there. I guess I’ve gotten a bit used to going to restaurants behind locked gates, but it does serve as a reminder as to where you are.

After lunch we talked our driver into taking us to the Bird Market which may be one of the most interesting things I’ve ever seen anywhere. A tiny narrow lane filled with bird cages for sale and every kind of bird imaginable along with a few rabbits. I’d been looking for a jewelry component that we could use with some hand blown glass beads. I never expected to find it in the Bird Market, but I think I found a winner!!! You’ll have to wait until the necklace comes out to see it.

Our partner and I finished our work over the weekend. Making the trip to Kabul was the right decision. We have been able to accomplish so much in the last week. Lots of great product ideas for the women to make and good conversations which couldn’t be had over email or the phone. He is very talented in so many ways, but is VERY good at knowing how to take our ideas and get the product produced. We will have to hire a sewing and embroider teacher to travel to the village for a month or two to train the women to have the proficiency they need, but it will be worth it. We will continue to make carpets in some amazing new patterns that we found this week, but we want to employ more women so the sewing and embroidery will be a good option.

Product Development

We also decided that he will find a qualified teacher to take to the village when he travels there twice a week. The teacher that is currently in the village has only a 6th grade education and can only teach through memorization. Taking a qualified teacher to the village will give the children at least two days of good teaching and the current teacher will learn as well. He can also help with teaching the Hoopoe books to the children and adults. I think this is a viable option to try and get some real education to the children…it is the hope for the future.

I did get a few of my questions answered about the latest fashion in Kabul. As you can imagine it varies quite a bit…young women with all the necessary modesty BUT very stylish, women in burqas and everything in between. I did have a double take moment coming out of a restaurant after lunch and seeing a woman in a blue burqa with a blue umbrella. I thought it was so cool that she had an umbrella to match her burqa and was so frustrated I couldn’t get my camera out in time to take a picture. Then I realized, “Wait a minute…what’s the umbrella for???” I guess if you are covered in fabric from head to toe it’s good to have something to block the sun. What a life these women live…but the young ones are making their statements none the less. Something I hadn’t seen before was girls wearing ball caps over their head scarves. I wish I had thought of that. It would be a way of keeping the scarf on and shade your face at the same time. Clever girls!!
Afghan School girls

May 8

Guns and Roses!!

On Friday, we went to the U.S. military base near Kabul for some meetings and to collect the school supplies that Eternal Threads had shipped for the children in our village. Before we left I took a walk around the garden of our guest house and counted the rose bushes…35 of them…all ready to bloom. I can’t wait. I had seen so many roses when I was in Afghanistan before so I wasn’t surprised that they had them at the guest house, but I didn’t expect to see them in a more unlikely place. At the Humanitarian Aid yard at the base where we went to pick up our school supplies, Chief Lawrence has rose bushes in full bloom planted in crates at the entrance to the yard. Someone had recently demolished the gate to the yard when they hit it with their trucks picking up some goods. He said, “I can get the gate fixed, but I was more worried about my roses.” I love things you don’t expect in places you least expect them. Chief Lawrence and his roses might be one of those unexpected moments, but he was actually typical of everyone that we encountered that day. Our soldiers are an amazing group of people doing an even more amazing job.

We got to meet several of them working particularly with Cultural Support Teams to try and win the hearts and minds of the Afghan people. The most amazing to me were the young women who are part of a new initiative – Female Engagement Teams. They are setting up sewing centers in villages for women. When they go to meet with them they remove their helmets and put head scarves on. (Oh, I forgot to say that the best part about being at the base all day was that I could take my head scarf off…I’ll never get used to it and it’s always falling off.)

We didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with them as I had hoped, but I hope to be able to learn more about how the initiative is going…what’s working and what isn’t. Our partner and I have laid out the plans to begin a sewing center in our village which will require purchasing some sewing machines and taking a sewing teacher to the village twice a week for a month at least or maybe longer for the women to become proficient. We developed several products this week that will be something they can produce.

We had to leave the base sooner than we would have liked, but our drivers were worried about getting back to late. We took a different route on the way back and it was spectacular. The base sits right up against the Hindu Kush mountains and as we drove home there were nomadic tribes on either side of the road with their tents, herds of goats and sheep and camels. I wish it was safer to be out in the countryside more.

May 5

Finding Hope

So much has happened since my last post and two days without internet. Security alerts were issued for this week because of threats of violence against the military and western targets, but then we received the unexpected news that OBL had been killed. Security is probably a little tighter because of it, but life seems to go on. We weren’t sure what we might be able to accomplish the day we received the news, but we actually had a great day and were able to find hope in HOOPOE Books.

These beautiful books are old Afghan folk tales that were published for the first time in 2006. Hoopoe Books has received a Public Diplomacy Grant from the U.S. Embassy in Kabul to distribute 2.4 million of these books to provinces across Afghanistan. Eternal Threads is receiving 12,000 of these books to be distributed in the area where we work not only to school children but their parents as well. They will be fantastic tools for teaching literacy to adults and are especially useful in teaching critical thinking. We were able to go to the offices here in Kabul yesterday morning to arrange for our shipment of the first two book titles (there are six stories in all). They will probably go by bus and Hoopoe is even paying the shipping costs. Two more stories will be published in June and the remaining two in the fall. Our partner is beyond thrilled and excited about having these books for the children. They will have never seen anything like them in their lives. Can you imagine how these books alone will change this village?

Hopefully in the next few days we will be visiting a company that produces Domed buildings that can be used for schools and would be a perfect solution for our remote village. I can’t believe they only cost $6500 with $500 for a solar panel. They have a door and big windows for ventilation. They paint the inside and lay carpeting. Our children sit on the ground outside for school so this would be amazing for them. They will house about 70 students. They will stay have to go to school in shifts, but that’s true all over Afghanistan because the Taliban burned so many schools that there is not enough for the children to attend school all day. Afghanistan has the highest proportion of school age children in the world and yet half of them do not have access to education.

We will be going to Bagram Air Force base on Friday to meet with the Female Engagement Teams that are establishing sewing centers in villages. It’s really cool….the officers take off their helmets and wear a head scarf when they are in the village. I can’t wait for this meeting and will be writing more about it later, but we hope to be able to get the school supplies that we shipped from the U.S. for our village and get them on their way to our village to be distributed. The children have never had school supplies. Sometimes 3 or 4 kids will share one pencil and they often don’t send their girls to school just because they don’t have the money to buy supplies. This photo is of airmen from Dyess Air Force Base in Abilene, Texas preparing to load our school supplies on skids in January.
School Supplies

Our partner is a real “thinker” so I’m enjoying every moment that we just get to sit and talk. I was asking him every question that I could think of about whether or not he is safe going to the village and what all the scenarios might be of things that could happen. He assures me that because we have done so much good in the village….a water well dug with money raised by ACU students, winter clothing and food relief, a place for the women to work and income for the carpets they make….that the villagers would warn him if they thought they weren’t safe. That made me feel a little better, but before we finished talking he said, “BUT this is what I WANT to do. I want to change my country.” I know what he means so we stopped having the “What If” discussions.

He has a 12th grade education, but his wife never learned to read and write like so many others so he is teaching her at night. I’ll confess to all of you that it would be so easy to lose heart, to convince yourself that there really isn’t anything you can do that will make a difference. Especially being here if you thought about it too long you would give up hope. It’s so easy to ask yourself the questions that plague you. I had been thinking that all I’m doing is trying to make a difference in a remote village and maybe it isn’t enough. My partner and I were talking about this and he told me something that may sustain me the rest of my life as a human being and particularly as a woman. He said, “You know, you are a great lesson for us. Why would a woman from the other side of the world care about people in a village on this side of the world THAT isn’t even on a map.” When he said that to me he was saying it to all of you who have been a part of the work of Eternal Threads. Sometimes showing that you care may say more than the things you actually do….I hope so. Thank you for partnering with us in this adventure in a village that does exist whether it’s on a map or not and whether or not I ever get to see it. Everything we can do to give our partner credibility and the respect and trust of the village elders is what matters most.


May 1

Eternal Threads Founder Returns to Afghanistan

I wondered what it would be like returning to Afghanistan after four years. Would I feel as secure as I did the first time or would it be more unsettling? What would women be wearing now and how much would I have to cover up? Normally when you travel to a world capitol it is interesting to see what the latest fashion is, but here it’s what do you have to wear to be safe and not attract attention if that’s possible!!!

My original plan for this trip was that I would travel to the west to visit our partner and hopefully visit the village where our carpet weaving project is, but in the last few weeks it became unwise for me to do that. The greatest danger would not necessarily be to myself, but to our partner. Afghans who work with foreigners are putting themselves at great risk so I would not risk raising his profile by being seen with me. As much as I regret not being able to visit the village we decided that we could accomplish what we need to do by having him meet me here in Kabul for several days. He arrived at the guest house where we are staying this morning and I knew immediately that I had done the right thing in coming. In just an hour of face to face conversation we accomplished more than months of emails. There is much to talk about concerning the project and so much to learn about the current situation here and hope for the future. It’s exciting to be able to talk to someone who is experiencing it and not just hear it in news reports.

I had not known before that he and his family were refugees in Iran during the Russian invasion when he was only a small boy. He is now 31 years old and has 3 sons. He is fluent in Dari/Farsi, Pashtun (his native tongue) and Persian because he grew up in Iran. He has been traveling to the village twice a week for a year…a 140 km journey each way through 10 police check points. He and his mother-in-law have been holding classes for the village people (both men and women) to try and convince them not to sell their 5 year old daughters to husbands in other villages. He was so upset when he learned of this practice that he had to do something about it because he now believes that if he has a daughter he will not take a dowry for her. He says that the classes are having a very positive effect in the village.

Education is the key to any hope for the future. We will be spending time finding products for the women to make, but we will also be discussing ways in which we can improve the education of the children in the village…I can’t wait for our meeting tomorrow.

Apr 14

News from Mongolia

Here are the stories of how 3 womens’ lives were significantly changed through working at The Stream in Mongolia.


“I have been working here for almost 11 months. I have not become rich but I have learned many things. I really like this work, it is very interesting. If I worked at a restaurant, it would only be a job. But here, I really appreciate the people I work with. Now I have good relationships. In the mornings, we share with each other.  Since working at Streams, my heart has changed. I have peace. I have become active in a church. All of my children and family except a brother and my mother have become believers. This is a very pleasant place.”


“My character has changed so much since my old life. I used to be very loud and aggressive with a hard heart and character. Even my voice used to be like a man. It has been almost 3 years since I first came to Streams. I have been working with jewelry for a year and 5 months. At first I got no money but I enjoyed being here. I can now make things with my hands. I am so thankful to be here. My life has changed. I really have peace and satisfaction in this work. When I am here, I am fed spiritually. We study God’s word. Now my son and I are both Christian and we pray and talk about the Bible together.”


“My heart has changed. I am happy now. I am so glad. I am now with nice people and have healthy relationships. We can share with each other and counsel each other. I have done many wrong things, but I have received forgiveness. I want to learn and grow. I want to learn this job and work here. I don’t go out on the streets any more and I don’t want to. This organization has done so much for me. They have given me whatever I needed. They are loving me. Their love is changing me. I like to make jewelry. Every woman likes jewelry. It is nice work. When I work here, my heart is at peace. I am so glad, I’m so glad to be here. I am always happy.”

Children’s Day

Over 15 women gathered with their children to celebrate Children’s Day in Mongolia. Here is the testimony of their experience:

“One month ago was Children’s Day here in Mongolia. We had about 15 Ladies and their kids come to the café that we rented for a day of celebration and fun. It was a fun time of relationship building and sharing. Pray as we continue the long process of building trusting relationships with the Ladies. We now have 4-5 ladies coming every day for devotions, jewelry training and a weekly Celebrate Recovery meeting. All of these women have left their former way of life and now come regularly to our church. They are growing but also have their struggles, so please pray for us and them as we serve them and guide them in the ways of the Lord. The jewelry business is just starting to get going to the point that we can pay some of the women. Please pray that it will grow so that we can pay two or three women a living wage every month.”

Shop for Mongolian jewelry at Eternal Threads, here.

Apr 7

Meet the Border Girls

Name: protected for security reasons
Home Country: Nepal
Mission: Staffing the anti-trafficking border units that Eternal Threads’ partner manages. Eternal Threads sponsors two of these units as well as the Safe House where many rescued girls live.
Goal: Prevent as many girls as possible from being taken across the Nepal/India border into Indian brothels and a life of sexual slavery. 12,000 – 15,000 girls a year are trafficked across this open border.

These amazing young women pictured here with Brittany Partridge, the founder of the Red Thread Movement possess courage and commitment beyond their years. Sadly we have had to blur their beautiful faces in order to protect them. Eternal Threads recently met with them and our Nepalese partner in Bombay so that we could all be witness to what happens to Nepalese girls that are trafficked into brothels in cities like Bombay. There was quite a contrast between this photo shoot at India’s Gate in Bombay and the time we spent in a brothel area where there are as many as 15,000 – 20,000 young Nepalese women who have been trafficked. Our partner began monitoring these border crossings four years ago and is constantly endeavoring to find even better ways to not only prevent the girls from being trafficked, but raise awareness in vulnerable communities and set up income generating projects to protect girls from being enticed to take jobs that don’t exist.

The girls were profoundly affected by what they saw in the brothel…the abuse and inhumane conditions. In their own words:

“I’m free, I’m not in captivity. They are the same as me…one in freedom and one in captivity.”

“I saw myself and my sisters in that position and I felt pain in my heart. What if we were there?”

“I felt very sad in my heart. I don’t know what to say to them.”

CNN iReport:
CNN launched it’s Freedom Project just before Eternal Threads went to Bombay. Our founder took this video of Brittany Partridge in the brothel area and uploaded it from there to CNN. Please watch and spread the word. The Red Thread Movement will be able to be part of this continuing challenge on CNN.

Buy red thread bracelets made by rescued girls, here.
Spread the word to Youth Groups or anyone who might help sell the bracelets.
Follow Brittany’s blog while she in the safe house in Nepal, here.

Mar 28

Meet Rafiatu

Name: Rafiatu Adams
Home country: Ghana
Trade and mission: bracelet and bead making and exporter of baskets made by women in her village
Goal: Set up a business for underprivileged women to make a sustainable income through beading.

Rafiatu initially started bracelet making and beading to pay her way through school. As time progressed she became inspired to use her abilities to help other women in need. Rafiatu decided to set up a business for underprivileged girls and “street girls,” teaching them the art of beading so they can have the ability to provide for themselves and their families. To get her business up and running she needs an expanded market to sell her items and that’s where Eternal Threads stepped in. Rafiatu knows how to sell her wares in Ghana, but connecting with women in the U.S. will greatly expand her capacity to serve the young women in her country.  She is now raising money to build a place where “street girls” can live and work.

Rafiatu items sold at Eternal Threads


  • beaded bracelets and necklaces
  • bracelets featuring African recycled glass beads
  • handwoven baskets

In her own words

“To be able to employ like 50 girls will really make a big change in the lives of all of us.”

“I have recently paid for the land to be legalized with papers so it is now ours forever. I have also bought a truckload of sand and stones to be used for the foundation but I am stuck for the moment and will begin something as soon as I start mobilizing enough.”

Rafiatu’s beads and baskets are now being sold at Eternal Threads’ Gatherings and at our Abilene Warehouse.  They will soon be available on our website.  Visit to find out more about Gatherings, other ways you can help and to learn stories of other Eternal Threads’ women around the world.